lawyers are taught to suppress or deny their emotional world. I’ve heard lawyers frequently say something like, “I never bring my emotions into a case.”
Contrary to popular beliefs, lawyers aren’t robots. We’re humans with feelings, emotions, and limitations. (I know. This may be shocking to some of you.)
Make no mistake about it. Once you decide to take the path less traveled, you’ll be shining a spotlight for those who chose to maintain their status quo. You’ll meet resistance. You’ll meet negativity. This is the reason that you must be your own best friend.
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One friend shared that once you know someone who committed suicide, the idea of taking your own life goes from abstract to a possibility. Another friend shared “it can happen, it does, and still, no one seems to know how to handle or discuss it.”
Being a “good lawyer” requires more than the ability to get the facts, apply the applicable law, analyze and advocate for your client’s position.
Fear of failure was my primary motivator in life – I went to college then law school because I had to be “successful.” In reality though, being driven from this place of fear of failure is damaging to your sense of self because we all fail – at some point in our life.
Maintaining humanity requires that I live consistent with my values, and one of the values I hold most dear is kindness. I do not believe you have to be unkind or cruel to win.
Breathe as if you’re sitting on the beach, by a river or wherever you want to be.